Mid-Week Motivation: Remembering You’re in Control

Individuals, society, corporations…they all want to take advantage of how gullible we can be. They tell us that they are in control of our decisions and our fate, and we almost always agree because we don’t know what else to do. This is what we’ve been taught and so shall it be.

Acknowledging that we are in control is powerful and it is fueled by imagination. Imagine where you want to be and accept only that. From there, imagine your immediate next step, which is all anyone needs to move forward toward his or her dream.

Whispers of doubt and the temptation to relinquish control are constantly knocking on our doors. It’s up to us to guard that door, to protect ourselves, and to leave the fucking building altogether.

Abandon the fabricated delusions. Life’s too short to give up on what you believe you truly deserve.


Fluctuating Hopes & Possibilities

Uncertainty is taking its toll on me. I’m learning the hard way to dump all expectations because they have nothing to do with what actually unfolds.

I’ve been taking it one day at a time while the move to Europe is right around the corner and things have continued to get more complicated.

I almost got a job abroad at work…sort of. Allies agreed to follow the idea and maybe see it to fruition, but I think it’s already been stopped by an HR department far, far removed from my needs. They shrugged their shoulders and decided it was too complicated. Disappointment sucks.

If I had a chance at staying with my company, I’d be in Scotland or Belgium. I’ve distanced myself from the idea ever since I was turned down back in August and was just warming back up to it. I’d find a new purpose with work. Things would be so much more secure.

So, if I don’t stay with work, it’s really up to the survival skills to kick in. Shan and I will have to find our way with little-to-nothing except the stubbornness we have to make this move a successful one.

Each and every How I Built This podcast episode I’ve listened to and other success stories I’ve read all have one theme in common: the risk. The crazy refresh of life from confusion and dreams into a brand new world. We don’t choose the lives we’re born into, but we can choose to start them over once we’ve finally learned what could propel us into the next one.


Friend Fave: Liza Da Great Style Icon

I’m still getting into the swing of friend shoutouts, my friends, so bear with me.

This one goes out to @pranks4players aka Liza Da Great.

Gotta say, Liza…I love your style and how you surpass consistent into stylistic.  Keep it comin’ plz.


Check out more Liza & go follow @eminenceink.


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SO Ready for This Weekend

Shan and I are a part of a Special Olympics volleyball league in Cheshire, Connecticut, USA.

It’s our second year doing it. We practice every Wednesday from October through mid-November to prep for our final tournament, which is going down this weekend. It includes a series of 15-minute games, lunch, and an award ceremony…but the real reasons we do it are for the camaraderie, laughs, true sportsmanship, and to have FUN of course!

We’d like to give you a peek into one of our practices.

No matter what happens after a serve or a volley, we always encourage each other to try our best and harder the next time. I can honestly say I’ve never been accepted quite like I am at Special Olympics. Whether we know each other really well or not, we’re all in it for the right reasons – that’s all that matters. The good vibes make it totally worth it.

When’s the last time you tried something new that turned out to be better than you expected?


Quick pic of me & our friend Zesty ridin’ dirty.

Quotes, or Call It Quits

Everyday is an internal argument – “What are you doing with your life? Do you really think you can succeed on your own? Can you even take care of your minimal needs, let alone create a lifestyle that will make you happier than you are now?”

To silence this battle and inspire my inner strength, I turn to quotes to keep me moving forward. Doubt is powerful, but it’s not impossible to defeat.

Here are some quotes that resonate with me and remind me why I’m doing what I am:

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure.” – Joseph Campbell

“Don’t settle. Don’t finish crappy books. If you don’t like the menu, leave the restaurant. If you’re not on the right path, get off it.” – Chris Brogan


“He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.” –Muhammad Ali

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.” – Helen Keller

What are some quotes that motivate you? Comment below with the ones you turn to when in need of a little boost.


Shove This Into Your Vocabulary

Defenestrate: to throw someone/something out of a window.

Example of use: Boy you betta get out the fuck out ma house before you’re defenestrated.

If you’re wondering, this was submitted to the 16 Thoughts Down podcast I participate in at work with my mentor, Frank (not the example, that one was all me). We used to do vocab words. This one lady let us know she binge-listened to 16TD on this random Thursday and had this wonderful word to share with us. There’s something amazing about someone contacting you out of the blue wanting to share things with you. Defenestrate – it’s almost a sentence in one word – roughly what our 16TD listener said.

What’s your favorite vocab word? Teach us something new.


(Wait so I searched “out window” on giphy.com and this came up:

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While you’re at it, listen to this song while watching ↑ this:

The One Way Ticket

We all have it…the fantasy of getting up and leaving. To go somewhere…anywhere. It’s our most delicious daydream we unwrap alongside our lunch during the thirty minutes we get between meetings. The classic recipe for adventure: one suitcase stuffed to the brim, precious belongings secured in storage, and of course, the one way ticket.

You see that horrible picture of me with my hands and my phone on my head? Well, that was my face after Shannon texted me a picture of our one way tickets (I was too chicken to buy my own). Leaving EWR January 9th, landing in Amsterdam January 10th.

It’s really happening.


Side note: that’s really me – working from home…bouncing between two laptops…stressed AF. Taken by Britt.